I have those days too and I'm coming up on a year S (after being married for 33 years). But then I think, what else would I be doing other than GAL, which I'm doing now. I've got too much invested in this not to give it my best shot. And I love and miss my H.
I'm sure many people think I'm crazy as a loon but they aren't living my life. Sometimes it sounds crazy to me.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss