My response to my w's email where she stated she knows she's dumped a lot on me the past two days but wants me to know our kids are the most important thing in the world to her and she would never make decisions or choices that jeopardize her time with them. (This is not what her actions show and not what's going to happen if she adpots our nephew which I'm on the fence about but deep down feel like its the right thing to do:
Dear Mrs.
I appreciate your honesty as well. Yes after having a horrific work week, having you tell me you hooked up with a random dude at a bar, are open to dating, and are possibly/probably adopting (our nephew) it has been quite a week.
I believe that your intentions are to give our kids as much love and attention as you are able. I feel they are in a place where they need that from us more now than ever before. I love (our nephew) and try to express that to him when I see him. I do however have concerns and I hope you can understand that.
You have made it very clear in many areas that you are going to do what you like and don't need to ask permission from anyone to do so. That is fine but please be aware that all of our choices do come with consequences. For ourselves, each other, and our kids.
I accept the fact that you are going to do what you like and you are free to do so. I will continue to try to make the best decisions and do what's in the best interest of our kids and myself.
Where all this leads I have know clue. I do my best to live in the moment and let things go but at times it's a struggle. I know that I love and care about all of you and I want everyone to be as happy as possible.
As we've gone down this path I have done my best to balance letting you do your thing and also be there for you. Please know that I am here and am open to talk to you whenever. Xx
