I'm really getting tired of doing all those things for H and he's just "eating his cake". The "a-la-carte menu" reference is right on the spot. That's what he's doing, picking out things that he wants without any kind of responsibility or accountability.
The benefit of communicating via text/email is that you have time to respond. You can take a deep breath or two and ponder over what you're going to say. Our conversation is probably not over yet, so I'm hoping it will be okay in person as well. My mind is just racing. I'm obviously affected by H's actions - not doing too well detaching, though at least I'm trying to act detached even though in my head I'm a mess.
The weird part about my plans to go out when I told him last night he didn't seem affected by it other than drilling me with questions. But today he's still thinking about it and seems upset. One of his complaints after the bomb was that I don't tell him anything (there was a stupid fight he was trying to pick because we both ended up renting movies without telling each other, but I was at fault because I didn't tell him). But why should I tell him my whole schedule (as empty as it is)? He wants to keep taps on me and what I do (even though he says he doesn't care), yet when it comes to him, he doesn't want to say anything and does what he wants.
