Waiting for the tides to change - 2

[purgatory]

i'm sort of at a point where i think.. i love you but.. what do you expect from me? i am getting on with my life out of necessity for myself and for the kids. i don't ask him if he wants to do things w/ us because i'd rather not deal w/ the possible disappointment. is that wrong?? i don't know.

Not wrong at all.

Foe some reason, the WAS thinks that we are supposed to curl up in a corner and turn into a crying puddle when they leave us... and in a way, I know we all did that in the beginning. But it confuses them when they see us having a life without them. It seems like your H is wanting you to be miserable- like he sees himself. You know: "misery loves company."

I think you did great when telling him about your injury. I mean, he asked, so that shows that he cares, but you spoke to him as if you were talking to a friend- just a summary, not the detailed novel. H wasn't expecting that- because I'm sure you used to go into all the details before... but you were talking to your *husband* then. He's experiencing what his decision feels like.

I'm glad FIL visit was nice. And hopefully the awkwardness will get easier with time. I hope you have a great time with your sleepover this weekend!! Some girl time will really be good for the soul!!!