I'm not the greatest at advice but I can share with you that, when my h was going through his crisis, he was reaching back in time to find anything he could as an excuse to leave our M. I tend to fall asleep in the recliner, maybe gee, once a month.... I always have even when we were dating, engaged, then married! But he brought that up as a sticking point, as something that had bothered him. To him it was a sound reason for leaving me.
I did however listen to what he was telling me, and I began to quietly make changes on some things I felt needed to change. It did help.
As my h now puts it, back when he was going through his crisis, he was hoarding everything into his corner, that he possibly could in order to find reasons to leave. Even if it was some silly fight we had way back when in 2002.
My h told me every day he loved me throughout his EA and what he was going through.... I did see this as a sign of hope, however his moods ranged from saying "I love you" to having nothing to do with me, barely speaking to me, and being very cold with shark eyes. Sometimes within a matter of hours his moods varied.
Wishing you the best. This is a good place to be during this!
