When the W dropped the bomb she said one of the main problems is we never talk and communicate (even though she is a very quiet, introverted person). Wed night and Thurs night after putting the boys to bed and she finished her work on the puter, I said, let's sit down and talk for a few minutes...nothing serious (we've had plenty of those over the last month), just about work, life, etc...
She said, "Do I have to?? You know how I hate talking about my feelings and stuff." I replied that she said one of the main issues was a lack of communication, and I think we should focus on it more, so it becomes more of a common routine for us: put the boys to bed, finish up work on the puter, and then sit down for 10-15 minutes and just talk, casually. She said, she would rather go to sleep.
So...
I don't want to pursue, so I dropped it. We don't talk, so I am trying to do a 180 and talk, and she doesn't want to... Do I keep bring it up every few days, or just tell her I'm here to talk whenever she wants, but I'm not going to bring it up anymore (I know she won't...I had to beg her to drop the bomb because she had been so upset for weeks).
M36 W35 S8 S5 M11 T17 ILYB Bomb: 01/25/12 Still living in the same house, sharing the same bed, trying to make it better
What the caterpillar calls the end of the world, the Master calls a butterfly."
