Also... and I know this is MY problem, so feel free to chew on me endlessly for this. If I were to take my son, I would feel guilty that I deprived my H of sharing the experience with him. I wouldn't want him to do it to me, so it's hard for me to do it to him. Also, I know my son would want his dad there, just like he would want me there. So I'm the bad guy across the board just because I want to go skiing and actually be able to enjoy it myself, which means w/o H.
While that's going on in your head, you are torturing yourself and will hold H responsible, even though he doesn't know what's going on. You're only depriving H of time with S if H minds -- he may not. We're not talking about disappearing forever!
If you want peace with this, then you tell H you are going, and that he can come along if he would like, but either way you're going with S. If he *chooses* not to go, you're off the hook! If he chooses to come, well now you've got to treat the rest of the trip with the same attitude. I'm going to enjoy this -- you can enjoy this too or not, but either way I'm going to enjoy it.
I hear you about no skiing in MO -- I grew up in Chicago and had to go to Wilmot -- 300' of glory. I'm heading to VT this weekend with D13 and S11. W doesn't want to go, D7 is staying home with her. I offered, she declined, I'm free to go!
Accuray
Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11 Start Reconcile: 8/15/11 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced) In a New Relationship: 3/2015
