I've only just begun!

[sandycay]

Thanks KML, I'll look into that. I have taken her to another Ped. gastro Dr. as the one we were seeing post hospital just didn't make sense in diagnosing things and randomly changed his treatment of her when I ask questions about it. He just didn't leave me feeling good or clear. I have taken her to Seattle Childrens and met with a wonderful gastro there. We are still on the hunt.

Since the last update, FEG took me to meet the parents in December. While in Boise, we were aimlessly wondering the streets and he pointed me into a jewelry store which I thought was just odd. But I got into a conversation with the guy working there because I had some of my mom's jewelry on and it's quite old and remarkable...he was offering to clean them etc. FEG was picking up different stuff asking do you like this...while it was an engagement ring but I thought "why would you be asking me that...you haven't ask me to marry you" so I just assumed it was casual conversation and offered my opinion on various rings etc. He brought it up later that I was clueless. LOL

We get back home and he informs me he needs to buy a house as his taxes are eating him up and since the D he has been renting. We live about 40 min from each other right now and at the beginning of relationship he said he would consider moving closer to me until my D finishes HS. We both know we don't want to live in the community that I currently live in.

So, I am a bit disappointed that for the next 3 years we will live apart. I understand his financial needs and in the long run it will be the best financial decision for us both. He also told me that he wanted me to be a part in the decision making process and that if he says "I" in any of this that he really means "we". He has the habit of doing this so sometimes I don't know if it is a we thing or an I thing..so he wanted to be clear on that issue. He also took one of my moms rings that I have stated that I would love to be redone and be my wedding ring at some point as it's a beautiful old European Diamond, platinum ring but the style of ring is not one for me. So we made it through Christmas and NE with no proposal..I kinda expected that for Christmas as I think that it around his proposal/wedding date for his ex.

Nothing has been said since. He just signed the documents for building a new home to be ready in July. Now, he will be an hour away. UGH on that. I can't do anything to help on the home at this time as my house is currently up for sell and if something goes wrong and I have to lose the house (I don't see that happening but) we don't want it tied to the other house. He has mentioned us being on the home together....etc.

I have two more classes to complete and then I will be placed on a waiting list for my program to begin next February which will take a year and half to complete. I am very excited about that. I will graduate just shy of my alimony running out. I had to let go of the nursing school issue as none of the ones that were available were close enough to where I live and since the EXH is not a parent in any way shape or form I have to be closer to my kids. I am now going in Occupational Therapy field. I am tickled pink over this ability...I just hope I get accepted!

The boy has been accepted into every college he applied to so now it's just a money game. I may have to take petition EXH to help pay for secondary education.

As soon as the house sells and I can rent I am turning him over to the DCS as he owes me $1000's of dollar for the uninsured medical expenses which he has decided (although it's part of the court order) he doesn't have to pay. He also pays late and that screws up my bills. But I have to be able to turn what money he does give me over to them and then they pay me,...hence the need to float myself for a month...while they get all that spelled out.

He wanted to pay my directly because his pay is never the same nor on the same schedule...so I agreed to it...and for a year and half he paid on time...now he gets later and later every month. I simply have asked him in the past to please let me know ahead of time and I can plan my bills differently for the month but for the last 6 months every month I'm on pins and needles waiting for the money...he sends in increments as he can only transfer so much on a given day. So, I asked him yesterday when he planned on giving me the final payment of the month and he says not till next week....uumm yea mortgage is due no later than the 15th!!! UGH

So, that's all that has been going on in my world.