Hi Val, I agree with Rick and JS- the rest is just unnecessary at this point. The extra words are probably just telling her what she already knows and/or will figure out when she sees the amount of the check.
You're stressing over it, and you don't need to. You aren't responsible for her reaction to it. And you don't have to listen to it, either!
I feel for you, we are going through some really similar emotions right now. Going dim (can't go totally dark with D) is keeping me sane, too. Do what makes you feel better.
