oh and one more thing, then I have to go get my kids.
As I mentioned to you before, I had emotionally left the M many years ago, although in all fairness, I believe we both stopped committing to each other. Regardless.
My W finally decided to find her happy in the spring of 2010. She didn't leave the M, she just decided to go out and enjoy herself. To GAL.
It was when she confirmed that she was GALing IN SPITE OF ME that it really hurt me. I was otherwise happy for her in her happiness.
She changed herself, which changed the dynamic of the M, which forced me to change, and I asked to join her... and she said "NO! If you go with me, I am not going."
That might be something you want to consider for your sitch.
I believe it was you who earlier said something about "you get what you give." It also appears in the reverse, "we give what we get."
It is very possible that my W felt I was doing things, in spite of her.
Earlier, I had mentioned how it felt to be abandoned. The questions are very open intentionally in order to get an idea of how the person thinks. And you very specifically did not speak on feeling abandoned. We've all felt abandoned in some way, at some point in our lives. That empty whole was very telling, in my mind...
GALing IN SPITE OF is a form of abandonment. Is there a possibility that you are abandoning your H, because you feel he abandoned you. And so he is now getting what he gave...
