BTW, I'm reading SSM, which is really ironic since I'm the LD partner and consider myself a WAS initially (now I don't know what I am.) Anyway, it's very enlightening in regards to a man's perspective on sex. Way more emotionally-based than I would have ever thought. Assuming men would agree -- in truth and not in just another way to get some. If it is accurate, I have a better understanding of your difficulty.
Yes, I felt it was very accurate, although it's important to understand that the HD/LD dynamic can go in either direction. I have a friend who is HD and her husband is LD.
I can say that for me the SSM book really spoke to me, it articulated how I feel in a way that I could not, I really appreciate that my W read it. As my MC said, if men could take care of their sexual needs by themselves, they would!
Originally Posted By: Crazyville
OTOH, I don't think women were the ones to come up with the phrase, "Wham! Bam! Thank you, Ma'am!" so perhaps you can understand OUR confusion.
I know both men and women who act like that, though it usually stems from insecurity in my experience. If you want to take it up a notch, read "Passionate Marriage" -- that one will make you think!
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Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11 Start Reconcile: 8/15/11 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced) In a New Relationship: 3/2015
