Well, it's been almost four months since I last posted. A lot has happened since then. As my signature says, my D was finalized on Wednesday. I think I cried for about 10 minutes total later that morning and have been pretty fine since.
Through the rest of October through about xmas time, E and I got quite a bit closer. In many ways I think this helped with the final detachment I needed from XW, but as you will see soon, maybe I had just replaced one attachment with another.
XW each did our own things through Halloween and Thanksgiving. On Dec 6, XW finally filed, and on the 10th, I signed some paperwork with her. That was the last I'd seen of her or spoken to her until this Wednesday.
Before Thanksgiving, my MIL/FIL offered to pay for a trip out to Denver for xmas with them after XW turned them down. I heard second hand that XW was livid. It was a bit weird spending the holiday with them and SIL, but still very nice. Very family-like; they still consider me family after all this, but realize that it's a splintered family between XW and I.
Two days before my xmas trip E and I had our own xmas celebration. We ML and told her ILY for the first time. She gave me an ILY too The next night I went out with a large group of friends. E had turned down the invitation the week before, but something in her snapped that night and we got into a fight via text. She was complaining that no one ever invites her out. Needless to say I was confused. She later told me she had a panic attack that night. Since then, E and I have continued to see each other, but less frequently and have been a bit more hot and cold.
My bday was in January; E and I took a trip to Toronto (her first time out of the US). Had a great time! XW has tried to test the waters a few times via text/email. Small things like 'we should meet to discuss this' and such. She asked a couple of days before the bday if she could take me out for a drink. I was (legitimately) too busy to take her up on her offer. The next week, she asks if we can meet up sometime as she hates never seeing me. Um, yeah... She also invited E and I both to her Super Bowl party. Another um, yeah.
As far as DB goes, no it didn't save my M, but it *did* save me and help me get through all the bs much better. It also helped me with the hot and cold E and I have been through the past month or so. Detachment 101, no pursuing and testing what works and what doesn't.
Still GALing. Found a duplex to rent in a cool part of the college town I live in. Been moving my stuff from XWs house and setting up my place the way I want it! Also started training for a marathon taking place over Memorial Day weekend. OMG, what was I thinking?!
I've tried to keep up with several people's sitchs even though I wasn't posting. In particular jbnati and DG, but many others too.
Still haven't decided how much/how often I'll post, but I *am* thinking of all of you and wishing you the best. Take care of yourselves and the rest will fall into place!
Me 43 W 38 M 5 T 7 SD20 S15, S13 with 1st W ILYBNILWY June 2010 Separation/Bomb July 2010 Divorce Feb 8, 2011
The next night I went out with a large group of friends. E had turned down the invitation the week before, but something in her snapped that night and we got into a fight via text. She was complaining that no one ever invites her out. Needless to say I was confused. She later told me she had a panic attack that night. Since then, E and I have continued to see each other, but less frequently and have been a bit more hot and cold.
