H has done a complete 180. I spent the better part of last week looking out the window for the process server, interviewing L's, etc. I also went as dark as possible.
Apparently H didn't like it.
He had a sudden change of heart about the money, no idea why. Then he kept asking to meet me, saying he would bring me a check. I asked him to mail it. He was oddly trying to engage me, sending random texts. I took my sweet time replying and kept everything business.
A couple of days ago I got a lengthy text about things, and he ended up calling me and we talked for quite a while. He still questions my changes and how they would impact our marriage. I told him again that the changes I have made are not for him, they're for me. I can't possibly tell him how they would impact our marriage, when I don't see him and rarely speak to him. I also reiterated that unless he also gets to a point where he knows and understands the changes he needs to make as well it'll never work.
Not that I'm negating my own responsibilities, but I have reached a point where I won't/can't go back to the relationship we had. I don't think he has quite reached the point where he is willing to put in the time and effort to make this work yet. He has done this to me before, only to change his mind as soon as I gave in to it.
I have spent way too much time achieving this state of mind to allow myself to buy what he's selling right now.
Yesterday we met to exchange D. He was acting all melancholy and tells me he wants to talk to me, but won't say why. I asked him if I was going to get served, and he said 'so you really think I'm an a-hole don't you (yeah, I refrained, but I was thinkin' it!).
No clue where this is going. Trying not to get caught up in it, but I am flabbergasted on how dramatically things have changed in a matter of days...
