feeling like giving up.....former DBing against OW

[imthemom]

I am at the end of my rope with this whole situation. Im not sure what more I can do to keep the relationship open for my S14 and his D. Again last night S14 took money out of my purse. Since I dont ever have it, its fairly obviouse when he takes it. When I confronted him this morning he didnt even deny it this time, just gave it back. Since we had the comversation last weekend about the fact that I could expect H to be involved in these sort of situations, I called him on my way to work to inform him. His first question was "how much did he take?".....
WTH????? REALLY???..I told him i didnt think that mattered and that I didnt think it had anything to do with the money, and that he obviousley needed to have a conversation with his son.
Since I had him in a convo I informed him that S14 had again asked if he had a girlfriend a couple of days ago, and last night had asked me if his D had ever cheated on me (yes, that was tempting...) I told him that I had told S14 that those were both questions he needed to ask his D. I had thought that H would be concerned about it...but i was wrong. He didnt seem fazed by it at all..said I have no problem answering his questions..all he has to do is open his mouth and ask them. He wasnt surprised when I told him what S14 had asked and didnt seem upset at the idea of having to talk to him about it. He also was not concerned about the stealing so I ended the conversation.
I am giving him through Monday...S14 has an appt with C on Monday evening. If he hasnt told him by then and C thinks it would be ok..Im sitting him down and letting him ask any questions he may have and answering them for him.
Im sick and tired of giving him chances to step up to the plate and be a father. He is not capable.