Their was definitely some anger that I felt towards her and being judgemental of her actions which I don't want to do.
This is what has gotten me in so much trouble for so long. Reacting on my negative feelings. They are my feelings and may be valid but they aren't the truth. It's my lizard brain reacting. We have the choice to decide how we respond to that but it takes recognizing the feeling for what it is and letting our response come from a higher place in our brain.
Realizing what we feel and why is a huge step in the process. Stopping and thinking "I feel angry and judgmental about X. Why do I feel that way? What can I do about it? What is the high road here?"
Previously I would have gone straight from the feeling to reacting in an angry, judgmental way, trying to control the other person into doing what I wanted. What I thought was right.
Just taking the time to recognize feelings for what they are and thinking before acting has made such a difference for me.
Is it easy? He!! no! But I am so much more relaxed at the end of the day because I haven't left a trail of destruction in my wake.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
