Forgiveness

[antlers]

Got another bad nastygram from son's school yesterday regarding his bad behavior and absolute ceasing of putting forth any effort to do his work at school. It was forwarded to his mother.
I got a call while I was at work from ex regarding a fight that she and my daughter had. She said that she had asked daughter to be nice and respectful to her and that it was making her "crazy and depressed like when your dad and I were together". Daughter got very mad and left and was roaming the streets (at night) with friends and would not go with her mom when she pulled up beside her. Ex said daughter told her "I'm done!" She asked if I would try to contact her (since daughter wasn't communicating with her mom). I listened to everything ex had to say and simply said "I'll try to reach her". Daughter got back in touch with me right away and walked to my job in the dark and rain with one of her friends. I took them to my house and had my brother come over to stay with them while I did some stuff after work. I came back, brother went home, and I took daughter's friend over to another friends house. Then daughter and I got some dinner and went back home. I didn't ask her about anything, and she didn't have much to say other than she was fighting with her mom and she wasn't going home tonight. She did not want her mother to know where she was, or where she'd spend the night. She's really pissed at her. I did tell her that I would let her mom know where she was and she got upset with me about that. She wanted to spend the night with a friend who lives across the street from her school, so I talked with that girls mother on the phone and in person and she said my daughter was welcome there for the night. I have to leave for work way before it's even time for daughter to get up and start getting ready for school. Daughter stayed with me kinda late then I took her over there.
She had been trying to get my son (who is still at his moms) to set some clothes out for her but they were fighting with each other too. He wasn't home. Son was still out roaming the streets with another 14 year old boy who has already dropped out of school. Keep in mind it's a school night. Daughter said he finally got home around 11 o'clock at night and we went by there and daughter went in and quickly got some stuff and left. I dropped her off, talked with girls mom, and went home. daughter thanked me and said she loved me.
After I got home, daughter and I continued to text some. I sent the following communication to ex.......
"Ex, I know we have been at each other throughout most of this and I'd really like to find some common ground as it relates to our kids. I love them and I know you do too. Here's what I'm thinking....our kids have paid a high price for watching us fight. Before, during, and after the divorce. I hope we can both put our kids best interests above our own. What are your thoughts?"

I have yet to hear anything back from her.