I think I'm done now. This whole thing came out about four weeks ago now. She agreed everything would be broken off with OG. I've been doing DR and it's been helping. But I found a box of gifts from OG in our bedroom including undergarments with swastika and ss logos on them - who wears that stuff and keeps it in our bedroom? I'm shattered by this. As well as something dated a week and a half ago so she's lying directly to me about there being no contact. I have learnt an awful lot about myself, I also think I've taken a bit more blame on myself than I maybe should have.
I'm not going to raise it now her, waiting till counselling on Monday.
Wow, that's not creepy.....you W is involved with a skinhead? Not to mention the disrespect on keeping crap like that in your marital bedroom. Ick! If you are truly "done," bring the items to the C session. And tell the OMW.
