I'll definitely try with the counsellors. Thanks for the link too - first one that came up was about how one in 5 kids from broken homes lose touch with the WAS FOREVER.
At the rate my H is going, this will be him.
I would definitely like to expose the moral and ethical bankruptcy, let alone quackery, of the marriage and family counsellor/friend and ex-student of mine who became the OW to my H.
But, of course, this wouldn't get me any closer to my goal of being a better person so I'll turn the other cheek....
On the issue of telling people, i've been sticking to what i thought was the DB line of keeping stumm.
Your friends sound like diamonds - so good to hear that they cared enough to try to set him straight.
I think my H likes to remind me I'm a 'single mum' - as well as telling me that I have been 'abandoned' - because for a long time it seemed that we were just a happily married couple where the H just slept elsewhere every night (and not for 'bad' reasons).
That is, we do get on pretty well together most of the times that we see each other (although he has cut this right down now), so he needs to keep reminding me that 'this is actually happening', I suppose.
