Rick I have been reading machs posts on your thread, but they are so intense - I really need to find an hour to read them throughly.
Another jolly day in the land of separation. H and I emailed back and forth regarding some job prospects for each of us. H used to love that we both did the same type of freelance work so we could bounce ideas off each other. We were doing that a little today via email but after a couple back and fourths, H abruptly didnt reply. Oh well I didnt pursue it.
H has a job possibility with Mike who is in his early 60s and left his 1st family behind in Canada 20 years ago to marry Jane. Jane is in her early 50s. Both Mike and Jane were friends to both of us prior to the separation. Jane was the woman who gave my husband kid furniture for his bachelor pad and told me that H needed to get back to doing the fun things he loved like mountain biking.
I have some concern about H working with Mike since his wife Jane was so supportive to my H when he was moving out. But I do think that Mike must have more complex feelings about leaving his 1st family (3 kids) then Jane, who got what she wanted out of the whole thing.
Nothing I can do about it anyway.
This weekend H visits his brother and SIL, who has stage 4 cancer. It was her diagnosis last year that I feel triggered my H breakdown. She has 3 little ones and its a really tough sitch. Her problems make me count my blessings.
I suspect that they going to talk to him about why he has refused to work on our marriage. I am nervous for that conversation cause I know that sometimes these "talks" push my H further away. Fingers crossed
I agree its never too late
---- M 39 H 35 D5,D4 M 4 T 9 ILYBNILWY 5/18/11 Left 7/11/11 Divorced 12/1/13
