We discussed her A a bit today. I asked her to never let him in our house until after our divorce. She said yes. She surprisingly wasn't defensive. She is definately worried about what I intend on doing with the evidence and I ignored any inquiries in that direction. I pointed out things really coud have gone differently and she agreed. So I brought up the intensives. She actually said that because of how her confidence has gone up since telling me about the divorce, that she is maybe even arrogant (her word not mine) that we don't need any help from someone figuring out the coparenting plan, I said I understood why she feels that way but that still doesn't make us experts.
We began discussing her plan and my response to it. I will not go for her taking the kids to a newntown/school etc, we talk some about our business and I mentioned some of the things I'm getting screwed out of. All of these discussions took place without escalating (really happy about that) but all of a sudden she got really upset and left the room. I did not follow and I'm not really sure why it happened. Maybe the realization that I'm not just going to agree to everything she wants? I don't know.
I then got some work down and had to go lay down. I slept for about an hour and when I woke up, I was hurting more than I could have imagined. What is it about a good (vs any type of fighting) conversation and a little sleep that just makes me want to try to rationalize things with her and help me work this whole thing out for the kids. I didn't do it but man the desire to do so was strong. Arggh.
