I would never tell a lady to keep her mouth shut...But I would advise to forget about the OW. Only bad things could come from you doing this. It might push your H even that much farther away. Concentrate on you. Make the changes in your life to better yourself. That way, when this thing ends (in either you being divorced or in that new M with your H), you will be happy with who you are (and so will whoever is with you!).
Bed rest...that does s*ck...Wanna play words with friends then? LOL
