MC says to call it quits

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The interesting thing is that what my W says and what she does are two different things.

So her actions do not match her words.
Is she confused?

MC's point is that if D and E are on my critical list, and W says they are off the table, then I should consider ending the relationship, because W has closed the door on them and said she's not even willing to consider working on those things.

My point would be that she is not interested at this time.
Has it been that way from day 1 of your relationship?

I am assuming that you have read the MLC resources. Your sich sounds very familiar.

It sounds like I'm having the MLC, or W is, or both?

No not YOU, but maybe your wife.