BklynMom gave you excellent advice. I agree that if you can swing it financially, investing in some sessions with a DB coach would be beneficial. And yes...talk to the school counselor (Does your husband want to be at this meeting? Tell him you're scheduling it, and if he'd like to come, fine. If he doesn't...oh well...you put the opportunity out there and he didn't take it). And yes, yes, yes...please go talk to a lawyer. Your husband says nothing will change for you in the near future...well, get that in writing and court-ordered!
My lawyer knew that I didn't want a divorce, but by the time I finally officially hired him (after meeting a few times), I had accepted the fact that we were getting divorced and it was time to move on as I had to. My attorney even asked me if by chance my husband wanted to reconcile, would I; at the time I honestly told him I just didn't think that was what I wanted anymore. And you know how things turned out on that front...goes to show "it isn't over 'til it's over."
One thing...I don't think you have to refer to yourself as a single mom to get that point across. Remember, actions speak louder than words. Show that you are a strong, capable woman and can handle things on your own. He'll see it.
NLW, you know what you need to do, now do it. Let him go. He may come back, he may not. You may want him if he does, you may not. For now, plan your future as if he won't be in it.
