Indecision and the affair continues (Part 2)

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I am sure I am in an EA with this new guy. We check in with each other every morning, chit chat a little during the day, and then have gotten into fairly long texting sessions at night. Mostly, we just talk about day to day stuff but I do vent to him about H. It's interesting in a way because I feel like I can see how H felt...



...it's just really scary how powerful these affairs are. And, I don't know what the right answer is for handling them. I think you just need to focus on yourself and not be overly worried about doing anything that can alienate your spouse. In the end, they are ALREADY having an affair...how much worse can it get?

I am glad I took the high road and tried...but I almost wonder if I should have gotten angrier earlier...I'd recommend reading several books on affairs to get perspectives if you are going through this. I think Shirley Glass's is the best.

Nblost - I am confused...
It seems like you are now having an EA yourself and then you go on about how things cannot get any worse than your H having an affair.

My H's PA started as an EA. You mention Shirley Glass' book - I believe she also talks about the slippery slope dynamic of EA's as well.

Are you still standing for your marriage? If so, I would humbly suggest that you tread carefully with your R with this new person - I just don't see how it could get you any closer to getting your M back on track.

Just my humble opinion, I mean no disrespect.