finally talked to my lawyers today.. two of them, one will be the lead and the other an adviser on the case. in any event, they have told me how what is happening right now is my SBE maneuvering to ensure that she gets custody of our son. they asked me why i couldn't and, frankly, it just never occurred to me. i think i was intimidated by the fact that i didn't have legal counsel and that her parents are wealthy and could easily outspend me in any sort of litigation.
they are taking my case pro bono or i'd be still having to do this by myself. i don't want anything unrealistic, i just don't want to lose my son or only have one night a week with him. he'd never make friends where i live and thus, as he got older, would be less and less inclined to come visit. i would like to be fair and share custody of him and keep him in his school with his friends and teachers that form his support network rather than making things easier for my SBE's commute.
by the same token, i know that watching me undergoing my transition will be hard for him and that's the last thing that i want to do; hurt my son even more than this divorce is going to hurt him.
thus i'm torn... really, really torn and i don't know what's best for him. clearly, staying in his school is hugely beneficial to help him adjust to the divorce which means i've got to find a place near his school to live, not the easiest thing on a disability income.
of course the lawyers are asking me why she wouldn't have to pay child support since she makes more than 2x what i do or alimony to keep in the lifestyle to which i've become accustomed. that will lead to all hell breaking loose to be certain.
there is just nothing easy at all about this when kids are involved, not one damned thing.
