I agree with mishka422 a hundred percent - seems like the healthiest thing to do for your S and yourself...

As for your H - only he is responsible for his R with his S, and his actions will determine that.

Hang in there!

Me & H: 44
D7, D6, S3
Together: 20y, M: 17y
EA: 11/13/10, Sep: 12/23/10
EA becomes PA: Spring 2011
H filed for D: 09/06/12
D Negotiating began 2/15
OW seemingly gone on 3/15
Still negotiating D