Me- I agree with a lot of what you said about this and am looking forward to getting to that point. To me in its purest form means to not be affected at all emotionally by anything she does. It has been difficult for me to let go and still be there for her and thus balance the whole dynamic of letting her have her space, not knowing what she is feeling (whether she wants more space v. less space), and acting from my true authentic self.
I definitely agree with you that I need to drop the rope. I don't know what she is capable of and until I am ready to throw in the towel I need to worry about and work on myself.
Mach- First....
If you feel like she is the one, then why not really make a stand ? Do what works. DB101 bro....
That is your fix for her problems. IF she would just come back, we could fix this.
It is not what she feels or thinks. You should really try to honor her choices there, regardless of how you feel things could be different.
Me- Not really sure what you mean here?
Mach- Once again, we go back to honoring her choice. You don't have to like them, but fighting that, will keep you right where you are right now. Stuck in your own head.
Me- Well said and I agree.
Mach- How about some concrete goals that are for you, and only you. Some things that you CAN control ???? Your goals should be for you. With your goals in line with the ultimate goal of being the better option if she were to look back
Me- This will be what I will be working on next.
I have a lot more I would like to state and respond to but wanted to get something down here.
And also would like to thank you Mach.
U R awesome!! Even if I picture you as an old Wizard with a robe & a cane.
