[quote=Say] I really want to work on myself more Let me ask you something...
What is stopping you ?
I guess nothing is stopping me except for myself. The daily grind of life is just an excuse so I really need to make this a priority. And I guess I really am unsure how to be more effective at this except for to reflect, journal, and do my best to learn how things I did or didn't do led to where I am currently at and what behaviors and other things I don't want to take with me into the future.
You mentioned wanting to change some things in the house....
What is stopping you ?
I was actually wondering if I should change some things in the house as a strategy to show my W that I am moving forward. I have changed a few things but am wondering if this is against keeping the road home smooth and paved. I am fine with not really changing anything but also think maybe changing things up a little bit could be a good thing as I don't want myself or my W to think that things are stagnant and thus the same.
IF...they decide to look back, there has to be something to see...NOT HEAR. IF they look back and see the same old same old, then there really isn't anything different. IF they decide to look back and see a different person, then that is what will intrigue them. But those things HAVE to be real. I can assure you that a WAS will sniff out fake changes, like a drug dog on a Cheech and Chong movie set.
I believe I have made many changes and she has acknowledged a few of them. The changes were necessary for my health and my sanity so I did them for me and as a result I think it will benefit our M if it comes to that. I believe she is leery of these changes sticking which is a perfectly acceptable reaction so only time and consistancy can prove to her, myself, and anyone else that this is who I am.
