Cyrena, yeah, I know that was a cop out with my XH, it made me furious at the time, and when I think about it too long it still does. And yeah, I know Roger is hell bent on justifying what he's doing to both himself and to me. Definitely why MWD says to ignore most of what they say lol.
Previously he had done some talk therapy. It gave him a lot of insights, and he learned some coping mechanisms and communication techniques, but I wouldn't say those issues were resolved really. If anything, the insights he gained made him realize just how abused he was as a child, not a comforting insight. In between then and now he mostly just tried to suppress a lot of the memories. That's why he's doing EMDR now.
The dog is being weird with her separation anxiety. She is missing him, very clingy when the routine changes, but is comfortable being outside when I'm home. So she whines and cries and scratches when I go to work, but when I'm home she's content to hang out in the backyard. So, the short answer is, no.
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
