Separation, Moved back in, still ILYBNILWY

[tenbusrider]

Once again.....WHY are you like that ?

Why do you choose the easier path ?

Is it easier to be the victim, than to face that resistance ?

It certainly gets the "sympathy vote" quicker.

I started to answer this before I realized you'd already done so for me. I've definitely got a case of the poor me's.

I'm not your Mama, or your Kindercare instructor. I will however be part of your support system. To hold you accountable for your choices.

I'm gonna challenge you, and ask you the hard questions. You are gonna get angry with me. Although if you really take a good look at it, your anger will be with yourself.

If nothing else, use that anger to prove me wrong....I welcome that.

This is probably the wisest, most meaningful pledge of support I've ever had. Your hard questions may frustrate me(and many others here, apparently), but they are honest and questions that should be answered, even if it makes us pause and think before speaking. Actually, it's because of that that gives them their value.

Is coping with his illness with alcohol, something that he would want you to do ???

My dad dealt with life for years with alcohol and xanax. He'd lost his career over this, and spent years trying to recover financially. We hovered just above poverty for a larger portion of my teenage years and early 20s than I'd rather recall. He sobered up for years, but his drinking eventually returned, and his habits mirror mine. Doesn't drink to "get through the day", but always ends his day like that.

Would he WANT me to do it? Probably not when put in those terms.

I'm 4 chapters into the Big Book of AA. Good of them to put it online.