TBR...just a heads up..
dont ask your wife to wait around for 18 months while you "work on yourself and get sober"..then start having an A behind her back, and then start telling her the drinking, the fact that your miserable and yes the ow..all of it, is her fault and THEN say you want a D......that would not be a good idea..LOL!!!
(thats my sitch in a nutshell...and yes I now have a sense of humor about it..:)

Me:48 H:42
M: 18 yrs.
S: 9/1/09 due to alcoholic H
D bomb: 9/9/11
OW confirmed 10/30/11
D papers filed 11/01/11
S15 S21(Special needs) S28

Look to yourself, It is there that all your answers are found...