Outside the Scope of This Report

[WenikiTiki]

Boy did I have an epiphany yesterday. I was headed into the gym
and who do I literally almost run into in the foyar? OW's STBX. And he is in his uniform, looking very marine like, and thinner and in way better shape than a year ago......

Certainly looking like a guy getting ready to deploy, not like a guy getting kicked out for being fat! We spoke for a minute or two. I told him he looked great.

Then asked when was his W going to get orders so she can leave the island. He said his command was working on it. Then he asked why I cared. I told him as far as I was concerned the sooner his W, OW to me, left the island the better for my H and me.

He seemed to think his W and I were still friends and still talked to each other. I haven't spoken to her in 9 months. I've seen her 3 times in her car, and once at the gym.

Anyway, he really blames my H for this whole situation. And often times I catch myself really blaming OW. So my realization is that they both are to blame. (DUH!)

Where does that get me? I don't know. I depend on you all out there to interpert many of these things. I just know it is a part of my process.

Part two of my confusion this week is how much my H depends on me to fix things. Almost to the silly point. The other day I hooked up the whole house wireless so we can take advantage of the stuff we pay for with this satellite stuff.

Later when my H turned on the TV the volume wouldn't work. MY H said that it was both the TV and the sound bar not working, I must have connected it wrong. I get out the book, recheck all my connections, am sitting there puzzling over it and I look at the sound bar and it was turned off. So he han't actually checked it at all, just assumed and was freaking out about it. Like a child.

Yesterday when H came home and turned on the TV it gave a reciever box corrupted message. He immediatly stars blaming me and hooking up the whole house system. I call the company and they go through the steps and determine my box is broken. I then remember we had a power outage earlier, while H was at work which most likely fried the box.

We will get a new one in 3-5 days. I went into the other room, turned on the little TV and it worked fine. H gets all pouty because he doesn't like the TV in that room, the chairs are uncomfortable, wah, wah, wah.....

I go get the box from that room, take out the broken box, put the box in. TV is working. Then he grumbles because we lost our recorded TV part. He will have to decided which show to watch. (He has a tough life)

I ask which show he wants to watch live, he picks Glee. I call my son who lives in our MIL quarters ask him to record NCIS. So later we can watch it on the whole house system.

We have dinner. I go to yoga. I tell my best friend about this stuff. She tells me to quit doing everything for him, he is a brat and a baby. I ask her who does the electronics in her house. She says she does. I say, well then......

So should I be putting my problem solving abilities on the shelf to let him work on his?

This man used to fly big huge complicated helicopters and train others to do the same. He moved pretty far up the ladder, careerwise. He is no dummy.

So am I just filling my spot in our relationship, or am I allowing him to not grow up? He seems to act different at home than at work.