My husband wants a divorce - for spiritual reasons

[Womanontheverge]

Ctflor,

Thanks so much for the response. I think what triggered it in my husband was the unexpected death of an aunt who was close to him. It made him think about his own mortality. He even told me then that he didnt want to bring it up then, but he saw the opportunity because we talked about "change" in our discussion about his aunt. I am willing to bet that if that didn't happen, I still would be clueless that he was so tormented in our marriage.

I don't think that another woman is involved, only because I know how he keeps himself up normally. He has gone from being an impeccable dresser/groomer to showering once or twice a week (if that) and wearing the same clothes over and over. He acted like he just didn't care about himself anymore.

He told me many years ago that he just knew he was a walking clinically depressed person. I asked him why hasn't he ever got help and he never gave me a straight answer, although I figured it was because he was self-employed and didn't have great insurance. But I think even if he had it (at one point he did have great insurance) he still wouldn't go, just like he wouldn't go to a medical doctor even though he wasn't feeling well.

It's just so perplexing. He just doesn't seem like himself, so angry at life, himself, the world and me.