Brklyn - I think of how tough this sitch is and I have to tell you that I really do respect how strong you are through this. Even when you're super unhappy, fearful, or in a rage about it, you at least have the guts to be open about it and try to find a better way to deal with it. I have three sons and they're older than your girls. To think that you are dealing with a crazy H, and then having to handle all the aspects of having two baby girls through this, well, it just speaks to how strong you are. My boys are older so in some ways its easier.
If you get a chance read the posts on my thread, back and forth between Mach and I. I think it will help you because we are dealing with many of the same hurdles.