If you want to be more patient etc, those are things you can cultivate. If you think you should be, those things, the question is why and for whom?
You're clearly smart and patient enough to know not to react. When you have truly decided from a place of peace, you will know what to do.
My D16 was teasing me recently about my "new boyfriend" (I had waved at a neighbor). My response to her was that I don't have the inclination or the time and that right now, my focus is exactly where it needs to be, which is on D's and myself. Her response was "I love you". When I asked her about it, the gist of that conversation was that she needed to know that she was a priority and that her world was not going to be rocked (in the near future) again.
