Separation, Moved back in, still ILYBNILWY

[imthemom]

I can tell you from my experience that if your W thinks you have a drinking problem then the biggest thing you could do right now is go to an AA meeting. You can find my threads and read up on my sitch...Our whole problem started with the fact that my H had a problem and refused...for years...to address it until I finally was forced to leave him. I felt like my feelings and that of our kids was not important enough to him to do something about it and it damaged our relationship, probabley permanently from what it looks like now.

I dont know what your W is thinking but I know that all I wanted was for my H to acknowledge that there may be a problem and make the effort to find out if he needed the help. That would have been HUGE in my book...and I NEVER would have moved out of our family home...and trust me, I think my H had a far worse problem then you...I lived with a lot of crap because of his drinking for many many years....and when we first went to MC way back when, my H was still drinking..and I remember sitting there thinking what is the point of this...hes drinking so how can anything he says or does right now in MC make any difference..If, when we got to our first appt. my H could have said "no im not drinking..I have x amount of days sober" I would have taken him alot more seriousley.
just my experience...take from it what you wish...but I kinda see where your W is comeing from on that point..once my H walked threw the door with beer in his hand, nothing else he said or did made a bit of difference to me ...I would just shut down.