Plan C is to do both of what 25 describes -- you give her the finalized paperwork that she wants and while doing so, you sincerely apologize ONE LAST TIME for the SPECIFIC ways you hurt her or were not there for her the way she needed you to be when you were her husband and had the chance. And you wish her happiness going forward. Amends, without expectation.

Then you get REAL busy in your own life and move on.

She emotionally divorced you a long time ago, Bad Luck. The paperwork is just another symbol on the timeline. The D does not represent the Finish Line. You may have crossed the Finish Line long ago, or it may not have been crossed yet (1 of 7 divorced couples reconcile). You don't control that. You just control yourself.

Me-53
W-49
D22,D18,D15
T-Since-12/2001
Married-9/2004
She Moved Out-5/28/2010
Piecing start-04/2011
Now-together
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