Did you ever wonder... that maybe he doesn't remember things is because... you've got his back...?
Any thoughts on how to encourage and support him in managing his own calendar?
I mean... you seem to enjoy it...
My W's like that, BTW. And she complains that she has to make the calendar and keep reminding me, because I won't do it...
And I sit there thinkin'... Yeah, but I don't have to because whether I want to do something or not, she puts my schedule on the calendar and then tells me I'm committed... I don't even have a choice... and then complains when I complain, saying I never want to do anything unless it's convenient for me...
Actually, he doesn't remember things because he has ADD (has since childhood) and doesn't take meds.
If I "encourage" him to keep a calendar, I'm nagging. If I keep reminding him about things, I'm babying him. If I don't remind him, I'm not communicating and I should have told him- or I'm being vindictive If I tell him, and tell him, and tell him, I go crazy
Yup, been there; done all that.
and hell, no I don't enjoy it. It's like I have another kid in the house. I have tried using love and logic; let's just say logic didn't work too well
