Take a step back and reevaluate man. I don't know you're entire sitch but your recent post ring some bells with me. For one I tracked down the OM like you did and regret doing it. The only smart thing I did was not to physically take it to him. I did end up getting a 50b put on me and spent a night in jail and have 22 remaining DV classes to take all because I was trying to chase the other man away. Ultimately I succeeded in this, but by my wifes own admission had I handled things differently things may have taken a different turn for us earlier. Long story short, nothing good will come of tracking down the OM.
Drinking during a period of significant emotional distress definitely isn't going to help it is only going to make things worse. I also know this from experience.
Keep your chin up and don't give up :-)
me 38 W 30 T 3 M in 05/2010 Separated 08/2011 Stephchildren (all hers) SS17, SS12, SD8 I filed 8/27, she countered I filed response 9/5 Anxiously waiting on the judge!
