Separation, Settlement, or Servellience?

[Yasu]

I meant to say in an earlier post, that I really see no other options but to submit to the "Settlement Proposal" Phase of the divorce process. As my attorney points out, our goal is to be cooperative, and they are showing forward, more realistic movement recently.

He has stalled the process thru either stubbornness, inexperience with the legal system, a language barrier, or indecisiveness - I do not know which, perhaps a combination. No matter which - it has driven my legal fees to such an exorborant amount, that there is no way I could ever recover. Thru continued cooperation, we hope to have him pay these fees. Our business certainly has the potential income to take of everything.

If a divorce is what he wants, a divorce is what he will get, I have never tried to stop any process, in fact I am the one that filed the divorce, as he was threatening me, and I knew for sure he had council. I had to protect my interests, as mentioned before - he removed my name from the business bank accounts and credit lines - effectively leaving me with the credit I had established in college.

His attorney threatened that he will put our case on a trial calendar last month. This route will obviously go thur the roof in expenses. Thus far, my side sees no way to prepare with depositions, and hopefully it would only be a bench trial. Still, with the caliber of attorneys we both have - the fees will be astronomical over a 3 day trial period. Worse case scenario is if his side starts scheduling depositions, as was once done last year, but canceled the last moniker (husband did not want to pay costs to depose me).

This has been the most hidious three plus years. I also have a history with some ten years of litigation, and an appeal that went as far as the US Supreme Court (they don't hear many cases, mine was one of 600 submitted that day).

The cases were regarding First Amendment, Free Speech, basically I was a whistle blower on my job at the University. I spoke on matters of concern. I also stood by a student that felt she was sexually harassed by a professor in the department. I received outstanding council on contingent eventually, and too, as an employee, I received supurb council for my defense when this professor sued me for "civil conspiracy.". That case was thrown out of court -
but it was six years of stress and mind-boggling preparation for trial.

Naturally, these matters took their toll on me. And I had to stop working, as it was becoming clear that My health was severly compromised from years of on-the-job discrimination and retalition. Not to mention, the polital fall-out from standing up to a University system.

I am out of my mind with this legal drama happening once again in my life. My husband has no idea what he is getting into. I myself have been deposed seven hours at a time, at least four perhaps five times. The Post Tramatic Stress since the filing has sent my health to he--.

I have never experienced such insomnia and mania in all the years of struggle with the university. My doctor attributes the start of my bi-polar and manic/more severe insomnia to the trama of the night I was abandoned in that small village in Greece. Never, in my life have I ever experienced any symptoms that come close to what I have now. It is the most frightening thing I
can imagine, and most troubling is the amount and type of medication necessary to control the worst symptoms. I will always hold him responsible for the development of this illness - although I am capable of forgiving him.