Separation, Moved back in, still ILYBNILWY

[tenbusrider]

I'm just curious....why ARE you doing this ?

There is/has been a ton of discussion here about being a doormat. I see both sides of it. I think a lot of it plays into what YOU think...

Are you a doormat ?

Do you think you are because your best friend Harold said that you are ?

Generally, I'm doing these things because it's convenient and easy. Like I said, not doing these things would more or less just be petty... I think I get what you're saying, though.

I was worried about being a doormat because I read a lot about people doing things for their WAS that they could potentially do themselves, but I guess that's more or less about issues that aren't just day-to-day concerns.

I truly WANT to be a better person that could be a better husband. D is still a very real possibility, and I want to be sure that I don't carry these problems into any future R if it comes to that.

What goals do you have for your meeting ?

What are you hoping to take from them ?

For now, perspective. I know one meeting won't "fix" me, so I intend to listen to the stories of others, and how they dealt with their issues. I don't want my S to grow up seeing a dad that can't control himself and drinks every night to unwind.

I imagine the road to recovery is much the same as the one to reconciliation - long and crowded with challenges.

Do you think you are because your best friend Harold said that you are ?

Wasn't Harold the same guy giving you marital advice, based on his past four marriages, on becoming a better husband ?

HOW DO YOU KNOW HAROLD????