You were very straight forward, and ....unapproachable? ( Maybe the wrong word there)
In text, without the benefit of voice inflection, your words were very powerful. Without tone, they could be taken as a very stern , "don't bother trying" to those who are in a very emotional position.
I usually read things two or three times, to make sure I remove that from any text I peruse. I want to fully understand what I am seeing before I stick my foot in my mouth.
I understand what you are saying very clear, and almost every word, I have heard before, albeit with a different voice attached to it. That does not infer that yours were any less powerful.
When most people post, they hear and read the other side of this. They don't see the pain that you speak of. They don't see the frustration that you speak of. And I believe that a lot of that comes across as being angry. You may very well have zero anger, I do not know you personally. That is what I had to remove, so that I could hear your words as they were intended.
I also want to say thank you, for putting what must be very painful words for you, out there for others to see what happens from the other side.
I have read Sandi's early threads, and gained a lot of perspective from those. I have read Smartcookie's threads, and AmyC's threads. I learned so much from them. And......I learn from yours as well.
You are correct though, perception of another person's feelings, isn't always what we think it is.
