When my wife had her affair 4 years ago it read exactly like MLC ,bomb etc etc Following all the advice on MLC worked and she touched on some childhood issues at the time but never dealt with them nor moved on. 3 years plus of DBing really was nothing more than a sticking plaster.
This time round she has run and has an OM, if it is MLC she is back in replay.
Personally I think she has an avoidant dismissive type personality. I am not convinced she will ever move through all the cycles of MLC. I think she recognizes the childhood issues but says 'do not try to fix me I am happy as I am'. She looks 10 years older and has lost a lot of weight in the last 6 weeks.
True to form after moving out she has latched onto the first available man. Replay or a personality disorder? Or both.
Certainly this time she is more determined to run and end things.
The replay OP/Affair is usually about halfway through the cycle would it take another 4 years to complete?
