Separation, Settlement, or Servellience?

[Yasu]

Wow, I hit the jackpot - I have read many of your interesting posts (and challenges) Kaffe Deim.

Firstly, there are no children.

GAL

1. Made new friends in the area
2. Revamped Rental Home over Last 6 months (he said I didn't care about it)
3. Made numerous friends in that neighborhood.
4. Rock'in, kick'in, hairstyle
5. Lost tremendous amount of weight too much). Drugs put some back on. Little needs to come off now.
6. Went from ankle length dresses to short mini skirts and low-riders. (have to take a break from the low rider right now).
7. Got a new puppy (my dog was showing my depression). He helped both of us get up off our buts.
8. Never leave house without looking great.
9. Changed vanity tag on car from a Greek word to "OSUPHD" - which represents "me" for a change!
10. I am developing the research design (historical/oral history methodologies)
for a book regarding a master printmaker that died last year, who was also a mentor of mine. This project has put me in contact with people all over the country. I hope to attract art historians that I know to contribute chapters. It is sort of the first intellectual project I have been interested in since I stopped teaching in 2000. I haven't really done anything but think about it and email old contacts regarding their interest. Such things are not money makers, I'm sure you know that.
11.have been absolutely midnight black since mid August, after my accident. I left a VM in September about an insurance matter, that's it.
12. We made our First Settlement Offer in November, countering one of their offers (which had made some reasonable movement. We did not date ours, as they do. Some 49 days went by before we received a counter, which of course we are countering at this time.

Goals:
1. Get necessary attention for dogs (scheduled).
2. Improve house-keeping (became member of flylady).
3. Cut grocery store spending. (DOING GOOD)
4. Work myself up to the basic morning flylady ritual (wake, swish toilet, clean sink before bedtime, be dressed from head to toe - including shoes, 15 min. Per day assignment via email).
5. Re-establish tie at least with Mother
6. Re-establish tie with best friend (DONE).
7. Get rental rented.
8. Get computer in house working again.

There you have it. Most recently, I left a very friendly VM asking husband to forward check that is extremely late, and pay bills that I sent him, with prepared envelopes and my portion of payment. The bills I sent a week and a half ago, I think. His check was due on the 17. I was only able to make a partial payment on my AmEx, and they are going to pull the balance on the 15 - so, I. Like need him to give me that money. I think the VM was sufficient on that matter.

I suppose, the latest LRT, is the final one you can use. I really have no other choice but to submit to the divorce settlement, since his offers are somewhat realistic at this time. It has taken over three years to get him to understand that a portion of the business is mine - but I think he is now clear on that fact. By being disagreeable, the process has become protracted and. Insanely expensive. This is on him, as well as my legal fees, hopefully.

He did tell me before he left our home that he loved me, still loves me, and will always love me. If that is true, how in the world can you leave your wife on the seaside in a small Greek village, with only $400 US, at 6pm, without her medication and glasses, and a mal-functioning cell phone?

I have done nothing but give my husband outstanding service for 32 years.

Re: his income went up drastically because we bought the successful franchise restaurant where he had worked many years. Isn't it funny how mean he got after the sale went through? It took me two years to do the paperwork to buy that place. It was as difficult as writing a Ph.D. Dissertation on an unfamiliar and uninteresting topic. All he had to do was sign his name on documents I prepared. As far as running the restaurant - he is a hardworking, charismatic genus.