My MLC Story - Help is Appreciated

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Rick,

I am looking at my own failings. I should have listened more. I should have stood my ground with her when her actions were starting to affect me.

I shouldn't have confronted her on the two affairs.

I am taking responsibility for my own actions. Unfortunately, she is also leaving me to take responsibility for hers too.

I came to this thread to find out if this is MLC and to understand it better. By understanding it helps me have a little more compassion for her, because I know that no matter what my failings were in this marriage (and I was not abusive), I did not/do not deserve the type of treatment that I am getting now.

As a therapist, I really don't diagnose people. I work with the problems that they present to me. I am more solution focused than you would think.

I know I have a long way to go, but I have never thought as my W as a patient, nor treated her as such.