Leaping towards D Day

[mr mr]

For those of you not familiar with my sitch check out "Leap Day Divorce". Don't know if I can create a link on my phone.

First of all thanks to all for their input and prayers. I would not survive without this board.
Not much new in my sitch, W still committed to D at the end of the month, OM still in the picture, still fixing me for me.

So February 12th my W and I celebrate our own sweetest day and have always considered that to be "our" day,and I would like to honor that day in a small way.

I plan on floating a balloon up to her on Sunday morning when I pick the kids up for church and it should float up right in front of her as she enjoys her morning cup of coffee.

The note attached will read:

16 years ago today we met at Walmart- That was a good day

13 years ago today I had you chasing Beanie babies around town before getting down on one knee- That was a good day

I'm sorry you didn't get to spend the last dozen or so years with that guy- but I am finding more and more of him every day

As we move forward the new people in my life may not like the smile on my face on February 12th, but they will just have to understand ......for me February 12th is a good day!

I hope you enjoy it.

Any thoughts, input, criticism or improvements feel free.
Or do you think I should let the day pass like any other?

[BFloat]

For me.. I think it's beautiful. But I'm receptive to sweet and romantic. As for your W.. I'm not so sure. If she reacts badly and says hurtful things, will you be ok with that?

[Rick1963]

Why stop there. Hang a condom on that baloon and ask her to have sex while you are at it. Dude pure persuit. Do nothing. Let the day go by as nothing. I know how hard it is but be a confident male. Hang in there

[Valeska19]

I agree with Rick. Mr Mr.. please read the 37 rules and follow them to a T.

[mr mr]

Ouch! Point taken Rick.

[~¤DG¤~]

Rick's response was a little harsh, but correct. I know he didn't say it to sound like a jerk and he is sincerely trying to help you.

I agree, let the day go by. Yes, you can remember that it is a special day but don't do anything to celebrate it. Chances are she wouldn't appreciate the gesture anyway.

[Cadet]

Again it comes down to EXPECTATIONS.

This is pure pursuit and totally against DB, or any relationship advice I have seen.
Odds are about 99% that it will FAIL.

However if you can do it with NO EXPECTATIONS and be OK with failure then go right ahead and do it.

This stuff is COUNTERINTUITIVE.
As my friend Mach says you need to be able to drink coffee with a fork while sitting on the ceiling.
Then it will start to make sense.

Until you get to that point my advice is to listen to what yu are being told and follow it.
Wait 24 to 48 hours before doing anything.
Give yourself time to post here and get advice.

Let us know what you decide.

[Mach1]

As my friend Mach says you need to be able to drink coffee with a fork while sitting on the ceiling.
Then it will start to make sense.

LMAO...

I finally DID that !!!!

Did you see the pics on the alt ?





Mr....

When I was young I thought of growing old
Of what my life would mean to me
Would I have followed down my chosen road
Or only wished what I could be


THAT kind of Mr Mr ???


Before you act on something , you need to keep in mind what your intentions are. If they are to change her thinking, or for her to have one of those- Awwww...he is so sweet and he does care -moments ???

I think you might be trying to nail Jello to a tree there.


Ask yourself if this is something that will bring you closer to your goals ?

Or farther away ???


Cadet is spot on....( there, I said it ) : )



Rick is correct, if you are gonna go down, go down in flames..

[BFloat]

pick yourself up.. brush yourself off..

how about coming here on the 12th and we'll honour that day with you instead?

[mr mr]

Ok, so no acknowledging the day to W. I will acknowledge it to me and everyone here! No balloons, sorry. Pastor better have an extra great message that morning.

Really feeling a bit off today. Not sad, not happy, just kind of numb and unmotivated. Took the kids for a walk anyway and D19 took us all out to Subway for dinner to talk over wedding plans, she has decided to get married on June 16th......my birthday:-)

I have a great family
I have a great church family
I have a great home that I am creating for my kids
I have a stable job that pays well
I have my health

Outside of just one missing piece I have a wonderful life now! W doesn't know what she's missing!