Don't know which way to turn...

[Cadet]

First suggestion is when you get the DR book to read it.

You can only FIX yourself.
You have no CONTROL over her.

While you are on moderation please post often and in small amount.

There is a ton of information on these boards and you need to read, read, read.

Oh and concerning the MBR, do not move out of it.

If she wants to move out then fine you can not control her. But do not sleep on the couch, let her do that if that is the case.

Continue to be the BEST DAD possible.

Let us know how you are doing.