My xh is stuck in an endless round of MLC behaviour. The first OW left the scene gradually [took about 6 years for her to totally exit] although it broke up many many times, and I would say that for at least two years it was hardly any sort of relatonship. Simply a distraction from his issues.
I think it was no coincidence that he broke up finally shortly after our divorce became final. [The divorce took forever] He now has another OW. I don't know the circumstances, and whether she overlapped with OW1 or simply he went straight on to OW2. nowing him he had OW2 lined up first. I do know he didn't have anytime on his own, Perish the thought! and in some ways it is as if he is starting the MLC all over again. He went back to meanness and spewing, and being even weirder than his MLC 'norm'. He appeared at one point to be working through the crisis slowly and then got stuck and 'decided' to do it all over again.
I don't know, it must have been so much fun first time around. I am truly sorry for him, but recognise that there really is nothing we can do. This whole thing is nothing to do with us, and while DBing helps us to deal with their behaviours, it does not imho, touch MLC which is something way outside a marriage breakdown. It just looks like it initially.
