l2l, I have no doubt that in the dating / honeymoon stage, people in general overlook the negatives about their spouses. I think anyone who says "I didn't know [this] about spouse" would be stretching the truth. We may not know specifics, but certainly there's always some sense that not all is as it seems.
Anyhow, it is not "bad" that you don't necessarily like who you see, right now. Think about it this way. If someone had an eye for you, and you didn't like them in return... wouldn't you be someone you thought might turn them off, or at least have no concern about what you might do or say might upset them?
And yes... it does appear the WAS learns that leaving isn't always easy... or cheap... that's his problem...
