4myfam, I've read that some MLc's can be "interrupted" and that they may start MLC and stop it, and then it starts again.
Im not sure how that works, perhaps life changes or events.I wish I could think of an archive to suggest for some more information on it. I've read that if the MLC is interrupted that when it starts up again, it's a doozie! Im beginning to see some truth to that.
I know my xh started in with typical MLC talk, or divorce delusional thinking, but then came back home. He then suffered his accident 3 months later and I honestly can say that his Mlc'ish behavior stopped dead in it's tracks. He was just happy to be alive and counted his blessings. He seemed to appreciate me, love me and the kids more and enjoyed our time together again. About 6 months after the accident I noticed he started having these angry outbursts. That never was the norm for him, ever. Then about a year after the accident he went MLC traits again.He spent another year hating me, telling me he was going to leave when he got his money, etc. Everything was my fault, I found a laundry list of all the the reasons he wanted to leave me. Just anger, anger, frustration. All he could say was he just wanted to be happy. He left rather unexpectedly and stayed with the OW he's with now for 2 days, and then came back crying wanting to try again. My head was spinning, I didn't understand WTH was going on. He then said he wanted to try and work on us and that he just knew he needed to be home. Then when he left 9 months ago he said the only real reason he came home the last time was cause he missed the kids. Im still questioning if his head injury has something to do with this. It might, but not entirely I know that.
Nothing they do makes sense. I agree that the first easy target is the next victum and it's very quick when it happens, if it wasn't already in the works in the first place.
